Being a bridesmaid is an honor, but there are legitimate reasons why a friend might turn down her bestie when asked. In addition to the dress, the position involves planning, time off of work, and possible trips depending upon the location of the bachelorette party or wedding itself. The cost can add up, and you may find yourself asking – how close am I really to this friend?

Taryn and Rebecca sat down to go through the reasons a friend may not want to take on the role, and they’re pretty spot-on. But is Ryan Gosling really coming to the wedding? You’ll have to check out the bride’s POV here.