Pop stars own the September covers of fashion mags. The latest in a long line of September cover girls is Jennifer Lopez, who bagged InStyle. She’s red hot, in a slinky crimson tank with black appliqués on the front. Notice those red nails, too.

The normally polished glamazon is a little roughed up and undone, with tousled hair and a bedroom stare. Since it’s the mag’s fashion issue and La Lopez is a fashionista with her own line at Kohl’s and dozens of designers dying to dress her, who better to appear on the cover than her?

The issue drops on Friday, Aug. 17, and in the feature, Lopez revealed her philosophy of life. “I live by the mantra that God doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle,” said J. Lo. Reflecting on her split with baby daddy Marc Antony in 2011, she said, “It’s not until something bad or difficult happens that you really get to grow. You realize: There’s no reason to be terrified of things. Either way I’m going to be OK… At this point in my life, I’ve learned I can really survive things.”

What’s that we hear? The Destiny’s Child song?

Lopez also repeated her mantra that despite multiple failed marriages, she has not lost her optimism when it comes to love. It’s not easy, but she does it. “The hard part is that you never stop believing in love. You never stop. But that’s also the best part. You never stop believing, and you never, never give up,” she said.

So what does she look for in a man, like her 25-year-old BF Casper Smart?

“The most important quality the man in my life should have is that he is sweet,” she said. “I like the good guys.

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